OVERVIEW

During my thirty year career, specialising in loss, transition and change, I have worked with people as they journey through the natural, but crucial, stages of recovery following the end of an important relationship.

I am now sharing these powerful insights with you on a one to one supportive basis through 'virtual sessions' that focus on 'Rebuilding When a Relationship Ends', based on the format of seminars I have created since 1992. Now you do not have to live in the United Kingdom to take advantage of the tools available to you.

During our work together we will go through a multiple stage process, tailor made to your specific needs, helping you break free of your old patterns in order to build a solid foundation for strong relationships in the future.

After a relationship ends you can either grow from the experience or endlessly repeat a destructive pattern. My series 'Rebuilding When a Relationship Ends' will assist you in creating a new future, free from the destructive habits of your past.

Of course not all relationships end when a partner leaves; some will end when a partner dies. Rebuilding needs to occur during all of these powerful life transitions.

Whatever the source of your loss, our sessions will help you discover that your feelings are entirely normal, natural and experienced by many people. You have the painful feelings that are a part of an all important process when a committed, deep relationship comes to an end. You are not alone.

During our telephone sessions, you will discover the key stages of what happens to us after a relationship ends and how to successfully navigate through them.

Our one to one 'virtual sessions' include written (and recorded material for those who prefer audio) as well as selected video recordings to explore and work with the various aspects of rebuilding your future when a relationship ends.

There is a proven 15-step process of both adjustment and recovery which I outline in summary below. These natural patterns of adaptation are similar to many major life transitions which result from the ending of either an identity such as work; personal illness; loss of role and direction in our lives or the death of a loved one. Adaptation and healing so that we can move forwards to the next all important stage in our life.

Read or listen to my audio recording exploring a short selection of the fifteen rebuilding blocks we work with

'Rebuilding When a Relationship Ends' embraces the following themes:

Denial. When we discover that our relationship is ending we often don't want anyone to know. Why, often we are afraid to admit failure and we also fear rejection from our friends and family.. We work through this initial and all important stage which includes both fear and adaptation.

Loneliness. where many daily living habits must be altered now our partner has gone. Suddenly it has happened and you are all alone. Thoughts such as 'I'm going to be lonely like this forever' can be overwhelming and it is natural to believe that we are never going to know the companionship of another relationship again. Here we need to work on supportive friendships but then we encounter the next stage of..

Rejection and Guilt. Usually there is one person in the relationship who is more responsible for deciding on the end and the other is the one who is left. The adjustment process is different for each person taking on these roles and we work through the role which you are coming to terms with.

Grief. While this is an important part of the recovery process, grief combines overwhelming sadness with a feeling of despair, which makes this a challenging part of the process and one where you need the most support if you are not going to get stuck at this all important part of rebuilding.

Anger. Most people are not aware that they could be capable of such rage because they have not been this angry before. It is particularly important for your recovery to find clear ways of appropriately working through your anger in order to move forward in your life.

Letting Go. is tough because of the strong emotional ties which remain but nevertheless we have to stop investing in our previous relationship if we are to move forward to a future life.

Self - Concept or Self Worth focuses on feelings of self worth and self esteem and for many self concept is at an all time low when a relationship ends. We have invested so much of ourselves in the relationship and so naturally when it ends how we feel about ourselves are at an often devastating all time low. So, rebuilding ones self concept is a tough job.

Friendships are important in our rebuilding to help us to both face and overcome the emotional pain however many friends may take sides or judge us at such a time or it may be as a result of our emotional pain and fear of rejection by people around us. Here we work on rebuilding social relationships with friends old and new who understand our emotional pain without rejecting us.

Leftovers comprise all of the difficulties that remain from your past in your life as well as the ending of your relationship. This is a crucial rebuilding elements because many people believe that they have left it all behind but when a new close, loving relationship begins you sadly discover the leftovers are still with you.

Love at this stage is often when they reply 'I thought I knew what love was, but I guess I was wrong'. So ending a relationship will encourage us to re-examine what love is. Here we explore a crucial element for rebuilding our future lives and that is exploring the process of learning to love ourselves for if we do not love ourselves how can we expect anybody else to love us?

Trust is the centre of the whole of our work in rebuilding because it takes a good deal of time to be able to risk in becoming emotionally close to some again.

Sexuality is where most of us tend to react emotionally and irrationally at this time in our lives. Most people are more or less terrified at the thought of meeting a potential partner because they feel unattractive, unsure of themselves and fearful of awkwardness. At this stage for many dating is confusing and uncertain and so no wonder sexual hang ups are so common.

Responsibility 'What can we learn from crisis and the end of a relationship and how can we improve our future relationships?' Such vital questions being us to the issue of equal responsibility in relationships and so we have to explore elements of over and under responsibility from our past relationship because without equality relationships are not able to adjust to stress and change. Partners find it easier to grow and to be themselves when they relate on an adult love and it takes time to learn how to build such relationships.

Singleness is where, regardless of your previous experiences, you grow as an independent person. During this adjustment process you allow yourself to let go of the past and in doing so learn how to be whole and complete within yourself and so singleness is not just going to be OK it is a necessary process.

Freedom is a point where this final stage has two dimensions. The first is freedom of choice which results once you have worked through the rebuilding process with me. The second we explore is the freedom to be yourself given how many of us carry around a burden of unmet needs resulting in controlling us so that we cannot be the person we wish to be.

' You are actually enabling people towards positive help. . your openness - your willingness to share yourself and not stand above us '   Group Comments Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends

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