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R E L A T I O N S H I P   E N D S

O N L I N E   C O U R S E WITH STEVEN WARREN

Here is the index to preparatory work to complete and work through before each of our sessions.

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE ONE

Summary - Ending a relationship may be the greatest emotional pain you will experience. The pain is so great, in fact, you may react with denial and disbelief. This only prevents you from facing the important question, "Why did my relationship have to end?"

There are rarely simple answers, so it will take some time and effect. Until you can accept the ending you will have difficulty adjusting and rebuilding. simply follow this link.

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE TWO

Summary - It is natural to feel extreme loneliness when your relationship ends but healing can come from the pain, if you listen to it. You can learn how to grow through loneliness to the stage of aloneness - where you feel comfortable being by yourself. simply follow this link.

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE THREE

Summary - Dumpers end the relationship, while dumpees have it ended for them. The adjustment process differs since dumpers feel more guilt and dumpees feel more rejection. Dumpers start their adjustment will still in the relationship, but dumpees start adjusting later. For the mutuals, people who decide jointly to end the relationship, the adjustment process is somewhat easier. simply follow this link.

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE FOUR

Summary - Grief is an important part of your divorce process. You need to work through grief's emotions in order to let go of the dead relationship. An intellectual grasp of the stages of grief can help you become emotionally aware of grief. Then we can work together so you do the grieving that you may have been afraid to embark upon before.

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  BUILDIGN BLOCK STAGE FIVE

Summary - You will feel powerful rage when your relationship ends. Feeling anger is a natural, healthy part of being human. But anger is different than aggression, which is a destructive form of expressing anger. It's not healthy to keep your anger inside, nor to express it aggressively. You can learn to express both your divorce anger and your 'everyday' anger constructively. simply follow this link.

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE SIX

Summary - You need to stop investing emotionally in your dead relationship. It is easier to let go if oyur own life expression is full rather than empty. Dumpers tend to let go more quickly, often because they have let go before they left. Failure to let go may be a symtom that you are not facing some painful feelings within yourself. simply follow this link.

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE SEVEN

Summary - It is okay to feel good about yourself. You can learn to feel better about yourself, and therefore gain strength to help you adjust better to a crisis. As you succcessfully adjust to a crisis, you will feel even better abour yourself. simply follow this link.

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE EIGHT

Summary - The support you receive from close friends is very important and can shorten the time it takes you to adjust to the ending of a relationship. Friends are more valuable to you than lovers right now. You can develop friends of both sexes without becoming romantically and sexually involved. However, divorce is threatening to many married people, so your married friends may slip away from you. simply follow this link.

  BUILDING BLOCK  STAGE NINE

Summary - Earlier experiences are extremely influential in your life and the attitudes and feelings you develop in relationships with your parents, family, friends and lovers are bound to carry over into new relationships.

Some of these attitudes and feelings are helpful in new relationships, others are not. A common leftover problem, even for adults, is an unresolved need to rebel against prior contraints, such as parental rules. Recognise the valuable leftovers, so you can keep and nourish them and work at changing those which get in the way. simply follow this link.

   BUILDING BLOCK STAGE TEN

Summary - Many people need to relearn how to love, in order to love more maturely. Your capacity to love others is closely related to your capacity to love yourself. Learning to love yourself is not selfish or conceited. In fact, it is the most mentally healthy thing you can do. There are a number of specific steps you can take to increase your self- love. simply follow this link.

   BUILDING BLOCK STAGE ELEVEN

Summary - If you say, 'You can't trust men / women!' you are saying more about yourself than about men and women and trust. Relationships after divorce often are attempts to heal your wounded self so many will be transitional and short term. In your new relationships with others you may be reworking and improving the way you got along with your parents. By building a basic level of trust without yourself, you can experience satisfyingly emotionally close and intimate relationships in the future. simply follow this link.

   BUILDING BLOCK STAGE TWELVE

Summary - When you are first separated, it is normal for many people to be extremely fearful of sex however during the adjustment process you can develop your personal morality to express your unique sexuality.

The singles subculture emphasises authenticity, responsibility and individuality more than rules. So you can discover what you believe rather that what is expected of you. The great difference in attitudes and valuabve of male and female sexuality appears to be a myth. But, your adjustment could be complicated by the major changes currently taking place in female and male sex roles. simply follow this link. Missing?

  BUILDING BLOCK  STAGE THIRTEEN

Summary - Most marriages that end in divorce were out of balance in terms of responsibility. One partner was over responsible, the other was under responsible. When couples try to change this system of interaction, it is often the beginning of the end of the relationship. Feelings and attitudes within keep one operating in the under-responsible or over-responsible style; one may have to make some major changes to become adult. Equal responsibility relationships are more flexible and able to adjust to stress and change, and therefore are more likely to last. simply follow this link. MISSING

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE FOURTEEN

Summary - In the singleness stage, you emphasize investment in your own personal growth rather than in other relationships. A period of singleness enables you to build confidence in yourself so you can experience and enjoy being single as an acceptable lifestyle, not as a time to be lonley. It is easy, however, to become stuck in this rebuilding block as a means of avoiding another intimate relationship. simply follow this link.

 

  BUILDING BLOCK STAGE FIFTEEN

Summary - By working through the rebuilding blocks you can build more meaningful relationships in your future. You will have the freedom to choose to be free and happy either as a single person or in another relationship. Freedom is being able to be fully who you really are. simply follow this link.

 

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To learn more about how I can work with you please make initial email contact steven@stevenwarren.co.uk